FIVE RULES FOR RAVISHEES by Lucrece  

I've had sexual fantasies of being taken since high school.    

When I decided to act them out, I had no idea of what to do.    

I was very lucky to find someone who was patient and thoughtful,   

and I learned a great deal from him.  Here are the most important   

lessons.  

KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.  What is your fantasy?  Why do you want to   

act it out?  Think about these questions and how you'll explain   

this to your partner.  

CHECK OUT YOUR PARTNER.  If you have a spouse or significant other,  

think about how he might react.  Would he be open to doing this?    

If you don't have a partner yet, take extra care in picking   

someone.  What do you know about this person?  Do you feel   

comfortable with him?  How comfortable is this person with you and   

your fantasy?  Is he as concerned for your well-being and pleasure   

as with his?  

SAFEWORDS. When "No, stop!" is part of the fantasy, you need a way   

to say it for real.  It can be a simple signal, like snapping your   

fingers or saying a code word.  

COVER ALL THE BASES.  Playing out a fantasy like this takes a great  

deal of care!  Go over every detail in negotiating and planning.    

Always ask yourselves "What if this or that goes wrong?"  Then   

figure out how best to avoid potential pitfalls.  

AFTERCARE.  Don't just talk it over before, but afterwards, too.  A ravishing scene is a very intense experience, and it's important to help each other process your feelings and experiences.