Frequently Asked Questions
Frequently
Asked Questions about Ravishment
What
is ravishment?
Ravishment
is the safe, sane and consensual enactment of an erotic fantasy involving the appearance
of force and resistance. Ravishment scenes
are also called “forced-sex role-play,” “play-rape” or “rape
fantasy” scenes.
Why
call it “ravishment”?
Phrases
like “rape fantasy” are often confusing and emotionally charged. Ravishment, on the other hand, can carry both an
expectation of consent and a desire for pleasure.
Isn’t it sick to fantasize about being raped or
forced to have sex?
The
most reliable surveys indicated that between one-quarter and one-third of the population
have such fantasies. That would make for a
lot of “sick” people out there!
People
have ravishment fantasies for a number of different reasons: emotional or physical
intensity, paradox and contrast, a means of letting go of guilt and inhibitions, the
desire to be wanted.
Aren’t
ravishment scenes risky?
With
thorough negotiation and planning, ravishment scenes are no more risky than other forms of
erotic role-play or BDSM.
What about doing a scene with a survivor of rape or
abuse?
Certainly
there are special considerations in such cases. Counseling
to help with the trauma of sexual abuse or assault is highly recommended as a general
rule. Partners should also be particularly
aware of limits, trust issues and potential triggers.
Can you really trust men who want to ravish women?
Ironically,
many men are initially reluctant to play such a role.
Good ravishers, like all BDSM tops or dominants, are mindful of safety
issues, personal limits and the consent and desires of their partners.
It’s
also a generalization to see ravishment as an exclusively heterosexual and male-dominant
form of play. There are submissive men who
fantasize about being ravished by women, as well as people who desire to be ravished by
people of the same or both genders.
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